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The Sinker Man 07-15-2013 06:12 PM

Re: Why do we tip the mates?
 
It only goes to show you that some people on this site can't read or think.

Flukenstein 07-15-2013 06:35 PM

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Originally Posted by bulletbob
Fair enough... So its your opinion then that if someone has his last $65 or maybe $70 in his pocket, and thats the boat fare, then he has no business boarding the boat? I have been there, many times, and personally, I went fishing.. I try and have more of a cushion than that these days, but again, I am a very low income guy, and some days every cent except my fare has been spent, and I get home on my credit card.
I wonder what would happen if I stared at the boat, started to board, and then turned back because I was unable to tip the mates as all I had was fare money.. When the captain asked why i wasn't staying aboard, and they DO sometimes, lets say I told him I felt embarrassed because all I had was fare money, and simply couldn't tip the mates that day, so I should leave.. Do you REALLY think the captain would rather see a paying customer leave? .. I am glad you are a generous guy that can afford the fare, and a generous tip for the mates.. It's good that some people can pay the freight and more.. However, some can't, its that simple... I really doubt the captains of the head boats would agree with your opinion.. If they did, and kept poor or close to poor fisherman off their boat because they couldn't tip the mates, their business would be cut in half.. I understand your views I really do.. However, not everyone can afford to throw a $20 to the mates... That might be all they have for the rest of the week... For some people, a trip on a party boat is a rare luxury, and even the fare is a hardship..
Again,I really respect your generosity, your kindness, and your thoughtfulness. However what you consider an appropriate tip, for some people is a half days hard work after taxes.. Just something to keep in mind.. Poor people like to fish too... bob

Stare at the boat? Started to board? Then turned back? Really??? Is this a "B" movie or a fishing trip? If you held out a tin cup maybe you'd collect enough money to pay for the trip and give a few bucks to the orphanage. Of course the Capt. wants you to stay----he gets paid. This is about tipping the mates----they wouldn't mind if you left.

bulletbob 07-16-2013 12:25 AM

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Originally Posted by reason162
You took quite a turn there bob. First it's how you're the most low-maintenance fisherman on board, you cut your own bait/fillet your own fish yada yada (and yes, you should still tip because you insist on doing these things yourself, no one stiffed you on service). Now you're claiming abject poverty, you're literally crossing 300 miles of interstate to fish on your last dime. Talk about playing the world's smallest violin ffs!

I'll answer your question bob: if you ONLY have the fare covered, don't go. As others have pointed out, you don't go out to eat if you only have the tab covered and nothing left over for tip, or do you??? What a nightmare customer you are.

And for the rest of the incredulous posters: yes, times have changed. Service wages are well below minimum wage, and mates/waiters/servers rely on gratuities for the majority of their income. Sure, you're free to not tip your mates, but we're free to point out what incredible cheapskating behavior that is on an internet fishing board.


Please look up the word *Hypothetical*..

I was not talking about anything I personally had ever done or intend to do.. Merely making a point... However when if and when it comes down to it, I now understand that many other anglers, including many from this forum do not want to fish around another fisherman that can only cover his fare.. This may include seniors, those on disability etc.. Let your favorite boat captains know your feelings on the subject, see what THEY think... There area MANY people that live on a shoestring, and the boat fare itself is a hardship... I am sure the captains would love to hear from their regulars that such despicable individuals are persona non grata..

Do you tip at Mcdonalds?? LOW pay, and those people work thier asses off, long before and long after you have had your meal.. If not, why not?.. They are low wage service workers after all.
Thats what i am too, a low wage service worker... The woods are full of them... Glad I understand now... Fisherman that are really pinched financially and can barely swing the fare on occasion are NOT welcome aboard head boats.. Thanks for clearing that up for me...bob

Flukenstein 07-16-2013 08:08 AM

Re: Why do we tip the mates?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by bulletbob
Please look up the word *Hypothetical*..

I was not talking about anything I personally had ever done or intend to do.. Merely making a point... However when if and when it comes down to it, I now understand that many other anglers, including many from this forum do not want to fish around another fisherman that can only cover his fare.. This may include seniors, those on disability etc.. Let your favorite boat captains know your feelings on the subject, see what THEY think... There area MANY people that live on a shoestring, and the boat fare itself is a hardship... I am sure the captains would love to hear from their regulars that such despicable individuals are persona non grata..

Do you tip at Mcdonalds?? LOW pay, and those people work thier asses off, long before and long after you have had your meal.. If not, why not?.. They are low wage service workers after all.
Thats what i am too, a low wage service worker... The woods are full of them... Glad I understand now... Fisherman that are really pinched financially and can barely swing the fare on occasion are NOT welcome aboard head boats.. Thanks for clearing that up for me...bob



If you are a low wage service worker you should be the first one to understand why a reasonable tip is expected, earned, and important. Please stop worrying what the Capt. might think, at least on this thread. This is about tipping the mates.

fishguy 07-16-2013 08:19 AM

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Bullet is Mr. Pink.

reason162 07-16-2013 08:26 AM

Re: Why do we tip the mates?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by bulletbob
Do you tip at Mcdonalds?? LOW pay, and those people work thier asses off, long before and long after you have had your meal.. If not, why not?.. They are low wage service workers after all.
Thats what i am too, a low wage service worker... The woods are full of them... Glad I understand now... Fisherman that are really pinched financially and can barely swing the fare on occasion are NOT welcome aboard head boats.. Thanks for clearing that up for me...bob

Bad analogy upon bad analogy. You don't tip at McD, therefore McD is required to pay minimum wage. They're not considered "tipped employees." http://www.dol.gov/whd/state/tipped.htm#foot1

In NJ/NY, employers are only responsible for $2.15/hr for tipped employees, which most definitely include mates on a party boat.

So by all means Bob, keep stiffing the mates, rationalize/justify your cheapskating behavior, tell yourself that the captain welcomes you aboard and that everything is a-okay. And as another poster pointed out, the mates will hate you, but that's okay too: 99% of them are professional enough to never show it. So keep living in your bubble and thinking that it's okay to stiff them.

reason162 07-16-2013 08:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Flukenstein
If you are a low wage service worker you should be the first one to understand why a reasonable tip is expected, earned, and important. Please stop worrying what the Capt. might think, at least on this thread. This is about tipping the mates.

When I bar-tended for a brief period I could always count on the truckers/plumbers to tip me fairly, and other bartenders/waiters/chefs to tip handsomely. The very few clueless tippers were the guys who never worked at a retail/service level in their life.

Ol Pedro 07-16-2013 08:45 AM

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With one fare making the difference between me working or not or the boat getting out at all then every fare counts . Tip or no tip that one guy that doesn't have enough to tip does make a difference .

bulletbob 07-16-2013 11:00 AM

Re: Why do we tip the mates?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by reason162
Bad analogy upon bad analogy. You don't tip at McD, therefore McD is required to pay minimum wage. They're not considered "tipped employees." http://www.dol.gov/whd/state/tipped.htm#foot1

In NJ/NY, employers are only responsible for $2.15/hr for tipped employees, which most definitely include mates on a party boat.

So by all means Bob, keep stiffing the mates, rationalize/justify your cheapskating behavior, tell yourself that the captain welcomes you aboard and that everything is a-okay. And as another poster pointed out, the mates will hate you, but that's okay too: 99% of them are professional enough to never show it. So keep living in your bubble and thinking that it's okay to stiff them.

Soooo,, you're saying an experienced mate on a good head boat makes $2.15 an hour, and on a slow day is going to bring home $30 or so if there are no tips forthcoming???.. Why do I find that a highly questionable scenario?.. I tip the mates when I feel its appropriate... I do NOT feel a need to tip because the guy iced the boat before I got there, or hosed the deck when I got off... If I get some decent individual attention for whatever reason, or win a pool , the mate gets tipped.. If I have no contact with the mate at all on any given trip, and only see him him when he puts a pint of cut clams between my rod and the rod of the guy next to me,I don't feel I am obligated to hand him a $20 bill.
I can assure you the mates on some of those boats make more money than some of the customers do.

fishguy 07-16-2013 12:07 PM

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http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=V4sbYy0WdGQ

Watch and learn bullet, I mean, Mr.Pink.

***WARNING*** explicit language. You know, like mates talk.

waynedane 07-16-2013 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by fishguy
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=V4sbYy0WdGQ

Watch and learn bullet, I mean, Mr.Pink.

Now that's funny...

RussA 07-16-2013 01:41 PM

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Would the mates in this thread share what their rate of pay is for a days work without tips?

Thanks! :)

I asked so that everyone knows where you are coming from when you think you are entitled to a tip or pool money. ;)

Ol Pedro 07-16-2013 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by RussA
Would the mates in this thread share what their rate of pay is for a days work without tips?

Thanks! :)

I asked so that everyone knows where you are coming from when you think you are entitled to a tip or pool money. ;)

PM sent

italianfisherman 07-16-2013 08:33 PM

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i worked the deck & was in family own charter/party boat industry for some time.. #1 mates ARE Not in tile to the pool money or a % of it. its up to the customer if he /she wants to give something to the mates from the pool. # 2 20% tip of the fare is good on any day/nite trip that isnt a long range trip.. the mates in ny depending on the boat make $85.00-125.00 a day CLEAR wages.they make more than a waiter does,busboy ete. just letting you know what a # of boats pay there crews, i dont no what nj pays, but reading the posts doesnt sound alot.

NoLimit 07-16-2013 08:54 PM

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"In NJ/NY, employers are only responsible for $2.15/hr for tipped employees, which most definitely include mates on a party boat. "

Wow - if I'm a captain and have all that money tied up in a boat, and then have to pay for fuel, bait, rental rods - I sure as hell will not depend on a $2.15/hr guy to show up and work reliably.

I still say raise the fare and let cappy take care of the mate.
It probably comes out to less that 20% and everyone is happy.

msgold 07-17-2013 12:56 PM

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I tip the mates well because the party boats I fish on spoil me. Help me back and forth with all my shit from my car to the boat. If I fish on a boat and do not get just a tiny bit of service I do not feel the mates should get a tip. I am the same in a restaurant. Service is a very important factor when picking a boat to fish on. Bob, would you believe what you started here?

1captainron 07-17-2013 05:23 PM

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Name "ONE" Deckhand on the entire coast that makes $2.15 an hour pay!!!

This post has gotten to be BS. It's the same crap every year, why can't Gerry just add it to the archives so when the question comes up next year, we can say, it's already been entertained?
Tip, don't tip, who gives a shit. Take care of those that take care of you, that's how I was brought up, if you don't , just go on a websight and see how many opinions (like *******s) you can get about it.

Christ, I wish you guys would get back to what this sight is about.....Fishing reports!!
Not, who is making what or how much is appropriate. Do what you think is right, if you can't afford a tip, your fare to the boat is what keeps us all in business. No need to be ashamed, if you can't afford a tip, be a man and tell the crew member, sorry, but I just had enough to make today's trip.....chances are, the guys on MY BOAT would make sure you got something to go home with for dinner. THAT MY FRIENDS IS WHAT GOOD BUSINESS IS ALL ABOUT. Karma comes back one way or another.:)

Taxman 07-17-2013 08:34 PM

Re: Why do we tip the mates?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by 1captainron
Name "ONE" Deckhand on the entire coast that makes $2.15 an hour pay!!!

This post has gotten to be BS. It's the same crap every year, why can't Gerry just add it to the archives so when the question comes up next year, we can say, it's already been entertained?
Tip, don't tip, who gives a shit. Take care of those that take care of you, that's how I was brought up, if you don't , just go on a websight and see how many opinions (like *******s) you can get about it.

Christ, I wish you guys would get back to what this sight is about.....Fishing reports!!
Not, who is making what or how much is appropriate. Do what you think is right, if you can't afford a tip, your fare to the boat is what keeps us all in business. No need to be ashamed, if you can't afford a tip, be a man and tell the crew member, sorry, but I just had enough to make today's trip.....chances are, the guys on MY BOAT would make sure you got something to go home with for dinner. THAT MY FRIENDS IS WHAT GOOD BUSINESS IS ALL ABOUT. Karma comes back one way or another.:)

Nominated for post of the year

fishguy 07-17-2013 09:00 PM

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"Tip, don't tip, who gives a s**t?"

You know who gives a s**t? The people who work for tips, Capt. Pink! That's who! Next time you go out to dinner at a restaurant for the first time and tell the waiter up front, because you're gonna "be a man", that you can't cover the tip on your prime rib dinner see how good the service is. Don't come to my place with that BS...

Tpkc2 07-18-2013 12:38 AM

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Tip your Mates! If you go on a boat other than your own! There's a ton of work done, before and after! Party or charter! Tip your mates!

GDubya07 07-18-2013 08:14 AM

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"Do what you think is right, if you can't afford a tip, your fare to the boat is what keeps us all in business. No need to be ashamed, if you can't afford a tip, be a man and tell the crew member, sorry, but I just had enough to make today's trip.....chances are, the guys on MY BOAT would make sure you got something to go home with for dinner. THAT MY FRIENDS IS WHAT GOOD BUSINESS IS ALL ABOUT. Karma comes back one way or another.:)[/QUOTE]

x2 - Believe it or not - I have done that when I was out of work and fell on hard times and just wanted to fish . I told the mates that I lost my job and cant give what I usually give and they said no problem - just come out and fish and enjoy your day . That is why I am loyal to my 3/4 boat from then on - the guys/mates always take care of me - they are people for the most part - like you and me and have good days and bad days . The problem in this world - people dont talk. If we communicated better as a species we would be more evolved at this point in time and space . There is my dirt hippie rant of the week .

Also x 2 for post of the year

x 2 - archive and lock it up - just going to get uglier as it gets hotter

Make sure to stay hydrated in this heat - peeps -

GDubs-:cool:


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